In 2019, not long after giving birth to her first son, Marissa Vahlsing began hearing from friends anxious to pass on the name of someone they promised would change her experience of motherhood. These friends were people she knew from different jobs, schools and social circles, and they were scattered across the US. But they were united in two ways: they were all highly educated parents living in coastal cities, and they shared the belief they had uniquely discovered this person themselves.
2019年,在生下第一个儿子后不久,玛丽莎·瓦尔辛(Marissa Vahlsing)开始收到朋友们的来信,他们都急于把一个人的名字告诉她,他们承诺这个人会改变她做母亲的体验。这些朋友都是她在不同工作、学校和社交圈认识的人,他们分散在美国各地。但他们在两个方面是一致的:他们都是生活在沿海城市的受过高等教育的父母,他们都相信是他们自己独立地发现了这个人。